We all have that one person in our life whom we know is toxic but feel like we can’t really cut them off. That could be a friend, a relative, a colleague, or maybe your roommate. If a person popped up in your mind, then you might want to know if you are right or not. Take a look at this piece of content to first understand how to identify them and then how to actually deal with them.
Identifying Toxic People
You might not know if a person is actually toxic or if are you really just judging them. To put it simply, toxic or negative people are the ones who take your shine away and cloud your thoughts and spirit. You don’t feel your honest self when they are around and you definitely hate the aura they carry.
Listen To Your Instincts
Your instincts know when you are uncomfortable from within, no matter how much you try to justify anyone’s behavior and presence. This is why it is important that you always listen to your instincts. If you feel changes in your breathing and your muscles tighten up around someone, put that person in the toxicity column.
Beware of the Frenemies
Do you have a friend who is always competitive, no matter if it’s a class test or a pie-eating competition? they are a frenemy. They will compliment and congratulate you on your success but would always want something in return. Take mental notes next time!
Take Toxic People Quiz
For this, take a piece of paper and scribble the names of five people in your life you feel bad around. Then, give each person three adjectives. You will notice that someone or the other would be labeled as critical, mean, judgemental, or fussy. By the end of this quiz, you will know who is the one you need to throw out of your system.
Play Pretend Game
Whenever you are around the person who makes you feel bad, pretend! Try to be as boring as possible. No matter how bad a person himself is, no one likes to hang around boring people. The right term for this is gray-rocking.
Save Your Energy
Instead of coping with these people and wasting your energy on them, look for things that make you happy. Use your energy in working out maybe, writing a diary, reading a book, or you know anything that soothes your heart and relaxes your mind. Put self-care above anything and you will see the difference yourself.